Singapore Divorce & Family Lawyer

Rajan Chettiar is a professional lawyer trained in the field of family mediation. He is qualified to oversee matters such as couples looking to resolve marital, child, financial and property issues before filing for divorce, or individuals seeking protection against family violence. A volunteer Court Mediator, Rajan also offers commercial mediation services, including settling employment and commercial disputes to avoid litigation. Providing legal solutions for all your personal and corporate problems, Rajan Chettiar LLC invites you to email your queries or comments to rajan@rajanchettiar.com on a no obligation basis.

— August 18, 2015

I am frequently asked how I manage the emotional aspects of being a family lawyer. “Being a man, how do you do it?” is the frequent question.

Emotional issue is only one aspect of the job. I do not deny that it is difficult to manage.  We get the clients in the worst times of their lives.  They are upset, angry, some want revenge and others are even depressed.  They take it out on us.  With age, maturity and experience, I learn to remind myself (and boy, do I have to do it many a time) that they are not negative towards me and that they are just venting their anger.

I will not deny as well it does not affect me many a time.  Self-care for a family lawyer is important as well. 

A friend asked me some many years ago whether I will be able to care and empathise with my clients if I am detached.  His comment struck a chord and I still think about what he said.  I do care about my clients.  As a family lawyer, I am helping them to start a new chapter in their lives.  Do I care in an emotional level? Should I care at such a level? I can but will it really help them if I do and tune in to their emotional frequency.  Is that the role of a family lawyer?

Rajan Chettiar

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Being a divorce lawyer — August 4, 2015

Being a divorce lawyer

I am starting this blog to write about my experiences as a divorce lawyer in Singapore.

I have been a lawyer for 18 years in Singapore.   After having worked in a large firm for the first 6 years as a corporate and then a general litigation lawyer, I decided to become an entrepreneur. I started my own law firm in April 2003 with the intention to practice family law in my own unique way. Family law is my favourite law subject and I love being a family
lawyer.  I have not looked back since the day I became a family lawyer.

Family law gives me a chance to help couple, children and other family members.  To me, it is a privilege to step into people’s private lives.  I am also asked how I handle the emotional parts of family law work.

It was not easy initially. But now I learn to detach and leave the work behind in the office at the end of the day.

Rajan Chettiar